Why should you not care about what others think?
1. Its not their life.
People are entitled to think whatever they want, just as you are entitled to think what you want. What people think of you cannot change who are or what you are worth, unless you allow them to. This is your life to live. At the end of the day, you are the only person who needs to approve of your own choices
2.You know what's best for you.
Nobody will ever be as invested in your life as you. Only you know what is best for you, and that entails learning from your own choices. The only way you will ever truly learn is through making your own decisions, taking full responsibility for them and that way if you do fail, at least you can learn wholeheartedly, as opposed to blaming somebody else
3. What's right for someone else may be completely wrong for you.
indeed, it's important to recognize that someone's opinion is often based on what they would do. This alone is a problem What is best for somebody else, can be the worst thing for you. What one person considers garbage can be another person's treasure. We are all so unique. Allah made us unique in our own way. Learn to know yourself. Only you know what is right for you.
4. It will keep you from your dreams
If you are constantly worried about what other people think, you will never get to where you need to go in life. You are going to have to do things that don't always meet people's standards. There's time where you'll come into situations where you have to put out your pride, and your reputation on the line to get what you want. If you're constantly worried about what people are thinking, you'll never have the will to do what's right
5. You're the one stuck with the end result!
In life, you're the one stuck with the consequences of your decisions. Eg, if someone suggests you some stocks, but you just don't feel right about that choice. If the stock falls and you lose a lot of money, you are the one who will live the consequences, you're the one that will have to live with the fact that you didn't follow your inner call, When people give you their suggestions or orders, there is no risk for them. They don't have to live with your choice, but you do!
6. People's thoughts change on a regular basis
We are constantly changing. Some philosophers and theorists suggest that we are in a constant state of flux, so much that we cannot even say we have one, specific 'self' or fixed personality. People's thoughts, ideas, views change on a regular basis. People constantly changing. Which means even if somebody does think badly of you at the moment, there is a good chance they will think differently in the near future. So basically, people's thoughts don't really matter
7. Life is simply too short
You have one life to live, only one! so why would you spend it worrying about other people's opinions? Do whatever you want, be whoever you want. You're not going to see these people after you're dead. You possibly won't even see them in a year from now. Live you life without worrying about other people's thoughts and opinion, and you will live your life to the maximum
8. Reap what you sow
Worrying too much about what other people think of you can become a self-fulfilling prophecy. Frequently, people indulge their need to be liked so much so that it actually dictates to the way they behave. Come on dude! some people-pleasers or so submissive that many people are turned off. The behavior you use as an attempt to ensure you are liked may actually cause you to be disliked,
9.Others don't care as much as you think
People generally don't think outside themselves a great deal of time. it is a sad but simple truth, that the average person filters their world through their ego, meaning that they think about most things in terms of 'me' or 'my'. This means that unless who you are or what you have done directly affects another person or their life, they are unlikely to spend much time thinking about you at all
10. The hard truth, it's impossible to please everybody
dude, you can't please all of the people all the time. It is impossible to live up to everyone's expectations so there is no point in burning yourself out trying to do so. Just make sure that one of the people you please is yourself!
So, in a nutshell, the weight of other's thoughts can become a burden sometimes. this can inhibit you from living your life they way you've wanted, because your entire being (personality, thoughts,actions) are controlled by an idealized standard of what people want to see. When you become so obsessed with other people's opinion of you, you forget of your own. You can make a conscious effort to stop giving a damn to let yourself free! it's a skill that needs to be practiced, but once you truly understand how to let go, you will see the world as entirely different!
Once you give up catering to other people's opinion and thoughts, you'll find out who you truly are, and that the freedom will be like taking a breath for the first time.
You go girl!
