Reasons, i wish i can always see the 'hikmah' behind things

Sometimes people come into your life and you know right away that they were meant to be there, to serve some sort of purpose, teach you a lesson or to help you figure out who you are or who you want to become. 

i sometimes do get annoyed by the saying, everything happens for a reason'. For once i find it to be rather sappy thou i'm not a particularly sappy person. More importantly, i've never thought the sentiment is true. i thought some things  just happen. There's no rhyme or reason to them. They just happen. The more i think about it, the more i think about it, the more i've become to realize i was wrong. Everything does happen for a reason.

the famous Quran verse, Allah wants us to wonder; 

'but it may happen that you hate a thing which is good for you, and it may happen that you love a thing which is bad for you. Allah knows, you know not'   2:216

And sometimes things happen that may seem horrible, painful, and unfair at first. but in reflection, we find out that without overcoming those obstacles you've never realized your potential, strength, willpower and heart. 

haha, everything happens for a reason. Nothing happens by chance or by means of luck. Illness, injury, love, lost moments of true greatness, and sheer stupidity all occur to test the limits of our soul. with these small test, whatever they may be, life would be like a smoothly paved, straight flat road to nowhere. it will be safe and comfortable, but dull and utterly pointless. hmmm

during these 5 years of medical school, i've been through a lot of failures, haha tak pass exam , heart broken etc2. These people i've met have affected me so much in my life. The success and downfall experienced, help to create of who i am and who i've become now. Even the bad experiences which probably the most poignant and important one; i've learned so much more from it. If someone breaks + hurts + betrays you, Forgive! for them they have helped you learn about trust and the importance of being cautious to when you open your heart. if someone loves you, love them back unconditionally, not only because they love you but because in a way, they are teaching you to love, and how to open your heart and eyes to things. yes, every day count!'

haha amazing as it sounds, it is true. it's taken me a long time to see hikmah behind things. Alhamdulillah, this has become a very strong principle in me, i see that even the worst disaster- there are wonderful gifts, hidden opportunities or life enhancing lessons. Alhamdulillah. we couldn't have gotten them any other way. Allah is the best planner, He plans perfectly, according to how we can weigh them. 

knowing that there's a reason for what happens also save you from being filled with blame. Yup, blame is a human attempt to make sense of some catastrophe, though we hate the way it feels. and yet when something bad happens to us, its almost a reflex to thing,, we blame ourselves too much as well. we blame other people and then we end up with the sense that the world is full of bad people. We blame ourselves and then instead of feeling healthy, strong and whole we see ourselves as sick, weak, and broken. then we blame life itself. What could be more demoralizing that feeling condemned to having bad things always happen to us and not being able to do anything about it. 

haha, you know, blame is like a boomerang that loops around and bonks us on the noggin. instead, try this, if you see someone struggling with sadness, anxiety and negativity, listen, listen to that person's story. You'll soon see he's living in a world where all he sees are things to blame because he lives without positive meanings for what's happened to him. The only cure is to restore the sense that there is a good reasons for everything that happens

aaah, alhamdulillah, now i am just going to appreciate every moment and take from those moments everything that i possibly can, coz i may never be able to experience it again. Talk to people that you have never talked to before, and listen. I've learned that listen is one of the survival kit of life. yes, break free fatimah zaharah, let myself fall in love, do something new, set sights high! woot2!! most importantly, if you love someone, tell them. especially family, kawan2, for you never know what tomorrow may have in store. i'm sorry dear friends, thats why i'm extra gedix. bare with me k! and finally enjoy looking forward to learning a new lesson each day and enjoying the journey!

Sometimes 'bad' things happen to 'good people, bak kata Yasmin mogahed, it is us who define what is good and bad. Good Muslims sees everything good. coz sometimes 'bad' things are truly outward moments of difficulty in comparison to the good Allah has in store and is preparing for that person to experience, when the time and moment are right.

'When Allah tests you, it is never to destroy you. Whenever He removes something from your possessionm it is only to empty your hands for an even better gift'

-Ibn al Qayyim

Everything happens for a reason and Allah has bigger plan for us that we might not know at the moment =)

cantik? hmm

have you watched this video?

touched. 

hmm

terasa panahan di dada.

zappp!

this video is definitely a-must-watch-vids

Big Valuable lessons i've learned

*dont try to find the self-beauty in the eyes of  other people. Beauty and perfection of physical appearance is NOT IMPORTANT in the sight of Allah. He counts every good deeds we do in life not how many people has complimented how beautiful you are

*internal beauty is what makes you  beautiful even thou you are unfortunate with the looks and body, like Julaybib r.a

*NEVER MAKE YOUR FRIENDS FEEL DOWN ABOUT THEIR PHYSICAL APPEARANCE. If you do, you are not blaming him for that, but the LORD, ALLAH, THE CREATOR. He created us beautifully and we have no right to judge His creation. 

*Rasulullah saw is the BEST COMPANION, see how affectionate and caring he was with his sahabat, especially those with low self-esteem. He would never let them feel down about themselves and always try to lift them up, recognizing the good deeds they've made and made them felt acknowledgeable in the sight of Prophet Muhammad saw. but FOOLS LIKE US, towards unfortunate looking people, we LOL-ing (laugh out loud) and make jokes at them in the group, forgetting the fact that Allah is the Creator. So basically, we're not  messing around with these people, but with Allah, the One who created them 

--- Personally, i am deeply sorry, to all if i ever make anyone of you felt this way before--

WHAT WE FIND NOT BEAUTIFUL MAY BE FAR BEAUTIFUL IN THE SIGHT OF ALLAH

So, what is true beauty?

is it the dead straight or gordilocks curly hair?
chalky eyes?
scrutinized eyeliner?
flawless and fair looking?
glittering, layered and colourful eye shadow?
designer and expensive wear?
vogue and in style shoes, bags and accessories?
hot and curvy bodies like Victoria Secret models?

huahua i'm so not good in describing cosmetic and fashion world,
pardon my limited vocabs :P


yeah i know, being a girl teenager, how hard it was to survive. And if you type 'TEENAGE GIRL'S SURVIVAL GUIDE in the google search, they've higlighted on make over, beauty reviews, how to get in style with fashion, as to inspire and boost up these teenage girls confidence level. We are bombarded with the fact that beauty of outer looks is more important than nurturing good inner values.

sigh
so, its somehow true like some sayings, beauty is pain, excruciating and expensive.
hm
i was up to that point too, struggling hard walking through my teenage life, so i felt how painful it was,
been there, done that!

but, as i grew up, being in KMB, and here in Czech Republic, i learned how to become a Muslimah, through my friends, usrah, youtube videos shared on facebook and so on. Alhamdulillah, i finally came to realize, being a Muslimah, i feel so lucky that Allah instruct us to wear Hijab, cover our body and being modest in everything we wear, we do throughout our daily life. He knows whats best for us.

Our bodies are a trust from Allah, no one gets to degrade a Muslimah's face or body, it is wrapped carefully, it is sacred, beautifully covered behind the veil. This Hijab is to protect us. For example, living here in Czech Republic, people stare at me, since i'm wearing Hijab on my head and fully covered my body. I am very used with the staring, but they don't stare with LUST and i feel safe! THIS HIJAB IS MY SHIELD. So, how can we ever thank Him enough for this?

Being a woman, i know, how we always wanted to feel beautiful at ALL TIMES! We are beautiful, internally and externally. PEREMPUAN TAK PERNAH TAK CANTIK okes, i've always had crushes with beautiful girls i've seen, even among my friends (hahha mohon kawan2 jangan perasan :P) We are truly blessed to have been created as a woman. And its a human nature, wanting to look gorgeous. But we have guidelines, and most important of all, beautifying our inner beauty rather the physical looks.

learn to behave well, learn to improve your inner soul
never quit in learning

definitely i'm not a righteous person,
i'm just saying as a self-reminder

I hope, may we'll be saved from betraying the trust He gave us of this bodies
and
may Allah unblind us from being tricked by outward appearance.

For all those friends and beautiful women who remind me of The MOST BEAUTIFUL,
may Allah grant continuum blessing of His throughout your life.

na schledanou!
FIGHTING!

for my future children

TAK SABAR NAK ADA BABY! lols

okes, abaikan benda atas yg mengarut tu. This poster posted in FB  i found this morning caught my attention . Haha i was quite interested with the content  of it. Overall i would say, raising a child is never an easy thing. The good education means the physical, mental and moral preparation of the child so he can become a good individual in the good society.

Allah (swt) has entrusted parents with their children. Parents bear the responsibility to raise their children in the Islamic way. If they do that they will be blessed in this life and in the Hereafter, and if they don't, they will get bad result during their life and in the Hereafter *gulpppppp*

Rasulullah saw resemble the best example of a loving father, a good leader of a family, an obedient child and so much more. As a future mother, I am glad that i'm in medical school, so i am fully expose upon this matter. During Histology class, i learned about the embryology and early development of human being in the mother's womb. However, Allah speaks about it in Holy Quran, about the stages of man's embryonic development.  Next year, i'm going to have Pediatrics in 5th year, so, i'll be learning in depth about children *ngee*

Honestly, when it comes to theory, i might have some knowledge about children's development and psychology, but practically on the other hand, i'm so ZERO!!! haha. I have a little brother,  who was born when I was 11. So, I used to be beside ibu, helping her out, taking care of my little brother eg cleaning up his diapers, feed him, bathing him. *baik kan kakak kau ni Nudin* So,boleh la nak kata yang i have a  very basic skills of baby care. 

In a nutshell, from what i can extract from above, the upbringing of a children begins in the early childhood, and continue throughout the teenage years. 

A mum's job is a 24/7 job okes!!!! Bare that in mind timahh..

So, secara konklusinya....

Physically...

-feed the children with halal and healthy food,  

-encourage the practice of sports eg swimming, archery, horse-riding, wrestling <-- basically these are the sports according to sunnah Rasulullah saw

mentally and morally..

-approach our children with love and tenderness, as the quotes saying, 'mother's touch soothe the soul' , make more physical contact, especially during the newborn period. The health of a newborn baby is HIGHLY DEPENDENT ON RECEIVING THE TOUCH OF THEIR MOTHER. patutlah baby kurang menangis bila ada orang sekeliling especially bila ada ibunya, they cry less and helps them sleep better

-teach the religious principle at early age. From the age of 5, teach the children on how to pray, encourage them to fast, but at the same time , explain why do they have to do it. Explain and make them understand that Solat prayer and fasting in Ramadhan month are a way of showing our love to Allah. Let them know more about Allah through story-telling about sahabat, angels, Prophet's stories and so on.

-be a good listener. Act as a 'friend' to our children rather than continue in the role of a teacher, as suggested by Prophet Muhammad saw

-teach them how to read at early phase; baby starts to speak generally at the age of 2, so da boleh ajar-ajar alif, ba, ta daa. Let them imitate your speech and repeat over and over again. At the age of 5, teach them to read Muqaddam and Quran. Children is the fastest learner of all in the whole wide world. So, encourage them to memorize simple surah and continue to surah2 juzu' amma during this age is the best timing. So true thou, i've been trying to memorize simple surah in Juzu' amma, and it took ages! *banyak dosa dengdengdengg*

-expose children to many kinds of interest, which enable their mental growth ; for example touring and travelling, language, music . Specifically as for boys, gardening, mechanic things, computer ; and as for girls, cooking, home-cleaning.

-let them take in charge of some task, to develop sense of responsibilities. At the same time, never let them doing it alone, supervise and guide them from time to time.

-teach children to select the good company and avoid the bad ones, because children are alwayssssss influenced by their friend.

-and one last thing, encourage and expose the children to sympathize with Muslim problems. Tell them about what happen in Palestine for example, and what can we do to contribute to the solutions eg making du'a and encourage them to donate some money to hungry Muslim children. Let them feel the sense of belonging to the Muslim nation. They will feel the brotherhood between Muslims, care more for Muslims in any land, and feel that they are part of the Muslim body, to feel sad for Muslim's sadness, to feel happy when Muslim are joyous and to strive their best to achieve the Muslim nation's goals.

banyak lagi, i know. takda idea.

now i can imagine how ibu and ayah raised me up since i was a little baby. I'm so glad to have the best parents in the whole wide universe. So, dari sekarang lagi i need to learn more and more, continuously making du'a, change my bad attitude and behavior. Nak jadi ibu yang baik, setting up a good practical example, because children like to imitate their parents in their sayings and deeds. 

Antara doa-doa parenting yg boleh kita amalkan:

Doa nabi zakaria 3:38 

At that, Zechariah called upon his Lord, saying, ' My Lord, grant me from Yourself a good offspring. Indeed, You are the Hearer of supplication

Doa dapat zuriat penyejuk mata memandang 25:74

And those who say, 'Our Lord, grant us from among our wives and offspring comfort to our eyes and make us an example for the righteous

and so much more, nanti timah buka doa dapat anak soleh niiii timahh huahuahua

p/s : words to ponder for the day 

How could Muhammad saw have possibly known all this 1400 years ago when scientist have only recently discovered this using advanced equipment and powerful microscopes which did not exist at the time? #deep

ok, i have to rush to fac now. PHARMACO mode is ON!!

cau!