do you want to be a prisoner of somebody else's thoughts?

it is human nature to want to be liked and accepted. However, this often leads to people worrying too much about what others are thinking about them. This kind of excessive worrying can have a negative effect on your life. It can be so debilitating that it interferes with your ability to feel at ease with yourself and around others. and this prevent us from living life to the fullest potential.

Why should you not care about what others think?

1. Its not their life.

People are entitled to think whatever they want, just as you are entitled to think what you want. What people think of you cannot change who are or what you are worth, unless you allow them to. This is your life to live. At the end of the day, you are the only person who needs to approve of your own choices

2.You know what's best for you.

Nobody will ever be as invested in your life as you. Only you know what is best for you, and that entails learning from your own choices. The only way you will ever truly learn is through making your own decisions, taking full responsibility for them and that way if you do fail, at least you can learn wholeheartedly, as opposed to blaming somebody else

3. What's right for someone else may be completely wrong for you.

indeed, it's important to recognize that someone's opinion is often based on what they would do. This alone is a problem What is best for somebody else, can be the worst thing for you. What one person considers garbage can be another person's treasure. We are all so unique. Allah made us unique in our own way. Learn to know yourself. Only you know what is right for you.

4. It will keep you from your dreams

If you are constantly worried about what other people think, you will never get to where you need to go in life. You are going to have to do things that don't always meet people's standards. There's time where you'll come into situations where you have to put out your pride, and your reputation on the line to get what you want. If you're constantly worried about what people are thinking, you'll never have the will to do what's right

5. You're the one stuck with the end result!

In life, you're the one stuck with the consequences of your decisions. Eg, if someone suggests you some stocks, but you just don't feel right about that choice. If the stock falls and you lose a lot of money, you are the one who will live the consequences, you're the one that will have to live with the fact that you didn't follow your inner call, When people give you their suggestions or orders, there is no risk for them. They don't have to live with your choice, but you do!

6. People's thoughts change on a regular basis

We are constantly changing. Some philosophers and theorists suggest that we are in a constant state of flux, so much that we cannot even say we have one, specific 'self' or fixed personality. People's thoughts, ideas, views change on a regular basis. People constantly changing. Which means even if somebody does think badly of you at the moment, there is a good chance they will think differently in the near future. So basically, people's thoughts don't really matter

7. Life is simply too short

You have one life to live, only one! so why would you spend it worrying about other people's opinions? Do whatever you want, be whoever you want. You're not going to see these people after you're dead. You possibly won't even see them in a year from now. Live you life without worrying about other people's thoughts and opinion, and you will live your life to the maximum

8. Reap what you sow

Worrying too much about what other people think of you can become a self-fulfilling prophecy. Frequently, people indulge their need to be liked so much so that it actually dictates to the way they behave. Come on dude! some people-pleasers or so submissive that many people are turned off. The behavior you use as an attempt to ensure you are liked may actually cause you to be disliked,

9.Others don't care as much as you think

People generally don't think outside themselves a great deal of time. it is a sad but simple truth, that the average person filters their world through their ego, meaning that they think about most things in terms of 'me' or 'my'. This means that unless who you are or what you have done directly affects another person or their life, they are unlikely to spend much time thinking about you at all

10. The hard truth, it's impossible to please everybody

dude, you can't please all of the people all the time. It is impossible to live up to everyone's expectations so there is no point in burning yourself out trying to do so. Just make sure that one of the people you please is yourself!

So, in a nutshell, the weight of other's thoughts can become a burden sometimes. this can inhibit you from living your life they way you've wanted, because your entire being (personality, thoughts,actions) are controlled by an idealized standard of what people want to see. When you become so obsessed with other people's opinion of you, you forget of your own. You can make a conscious effort to stop giving a damn to let yourself free! it's a skill that needs to be practiced, but once you truly understand how to let go, you will see the world as entirely different!

Once you give up catering to other people's opinion and thoughts, you'll find out who you truly are, and that the freedom will be like taking a breath for the first time.

You go girl!

Reasons, i wish i can always see the 'hikmah' behind things

Sometimes people come into your life and you know right away that they were meant to be there, to serve some sort of purpose, teach you a lesson or to help you figure out who you are or who you want to become. 

i sometimes do get annoyed by the saying, everything happens for a reason'. For once i find it to be rather sappy thou i'm not a particularly sappy person. More importantly, i've never thought the sentiment is true. i thought some things  just happen. There's no rhyme or reason to them. They just happen. The more i think about it, the more i think about it, the more i've become to realize i was wrong. Everything does happen for a reason.

the famous Quran verse, Allah wants us to wonder; 

'but it may happen that you hate a thing which is good for you, and it may happen that you love a thing which is bad for you. Allah knows, you know not'   2:216

And sometimes things happen that may seem horrible, painful, and unfair at first. but in reflection, we find out that without overcoming those obstacles you've never realized your potential, strength, willpower and heart. 

haha, everything happens for a reason. Nothing happens by chance or by means of luck. Illness, injury, love, lost moments of true greatness, and sheer stupidity all occur to test the limits of our soul. with these small test, whatever they may be, life would be like a smoothly paved, straight flat road to nowhere. it will be safe and comfortable, but dull and utterly pointless. hmmm

during these 5 years of medical school, i've been through a lot of failures, haha tak pass exam , heart broken etc2. These people i've met have affected me so much in my life. The success and downfall experienced, help to create of who i am and who i've become now. Even the bad experiences which probably the most poignant and important one; i've learned so much more from it. If someone breaks + hurts + betrays you, Forgive! for them they have helped you learn about trust and the importance of being cautious to when you open your heart. if someone loves you, love them back unconditionally, not only because they love you but because in a way, they are teaching you to love, and how to open your heart and eyes to things. yes, every day count!'

haha amazing as it sounds, it is true. it's taken me a long time to see hikmah behind things. Alhamdulillah, this has become a very strong principle in me, i see that even the worst disaster- there are wonderful gifts, hidden opportunities or life enhancing lessons. Alhamdulillah. we couldn't have gotten them any other way. Allah is the best planner, He plans perfectly, according to how we can weigh them. 

knowing that there's a reason for what happens also save you from being filled with blame. Yup, blame is a human attempt to make sense of some catastrophe, though we hate the way it feels. and yet when something bad happens to us, its almost a reflex to thing,, we blame ourselves too much as well. we blame other people and then we end up with the sense that the world is full of bad people. We blame ourselves and then instead of feeling healthy, strong and whole we see ourselves as sick, weak, and broken. then we blame life itself. What could be more demoralizing that feeling condemned to having bad things always happen to us and not being able to do anything about it. 

haha, you know, blame is like a boomerang that loops around and bonks us on the noggin. instead, try this, if you see someone struggling with sadness, anxiety and negativity, listen, listen to that person's story. You'll soon see he's living in a world where all he sees are things to blame because he lives without positive meanings for what's happened to him. The only cure is to restore the sense that there is a good reasons for everything that happens

aaah, alhamdulillah, now i am just going to appreciate every moment and take from those moments everything that i possibly can, coz i may never be able to experience it again. Talk to people that you have never talked to before, and listen. I've learned that listen is one of the survival kit of life. yes, break free fatimah zaharah, let myself fall in love, do something new, set sights high! woot2!! most importantly, if you love someone, tell them. especially family, kawan2, for you never know what tomorrow may have in store. i'm sorry dear friends, thats why i'm extra gedix. bare with me k! and finally enjoy looking forward to learning a new lesson each day and enjoying the journey!

Sometimes 'bad' things happen to 'good people, bak kata Yasmin mogahed, it is us who define what is good and bad. Good Muslims sees everything good. coz sometimes 'bad' things are truly outward moments of difficulty in comparison to the good Allah has in store and is preparing for that person to experience, when the time and moment are right.

'When Allah tests you, it is never to destroy you. Whenever He removes something from your possessionm it is only to empty your hands for an even better gift'

-Ibn al Qayyim

Everything happens for a reason and Allah has bigger plan for us that we might not know at the moment =)

6.12.2013

Yes, if winds are strong enough, even a super jumbo like the 380airbus can be flipped right?

Yes, no warning at all.

we (me, Jiha, mel, adz and Fana) were heading Prague for our Adrspach mission, and about 100km near Prague, it just happened. 

At that moment when the car was spinning, i was unable to control the car's trajectory. My leg was off the pedal, and i was really confused for a few seconds, i couldn't think of what to do. When our car was facing backwards , my head told me to brake the car. I thought the car in front was getting near, instead our car was moving backwards, probably because of the inertia spinning and the strong wind. It hit the divider at the side of the road, and scratched as far as 50m away. The side mirror was like vegetables, and the door was hardly smashed. 

paling i terkilan, i didn't manage utk mengucap. i can sure i'll be in hell if i die on that day. ya Allah!

speechless. how to digest this? i need time

We all have a do-over each waking moment. Take it, savor it and fully live today.

                                           

kata kata

precious...

Daripada Abi Hurairah r.a bahawasanya ia telah bersabda :

Seorang mukmin yang kuat itu adalah lebih baik dan lebih dicintai Allah daripada seorang mukmin yang lemah dan pada masing-masing terdapat kebaikan, utamakan apa yang lebih memberi faedah kepada kamu dan mohonlah pertolongan dari Allah dan kamu menjadi lemah. Kalau kamu ditimpa sesuatu janganlah berkata, KALAU aku lakukan begini sudah tentu akan berlaku, tetapi berkatalah, IA TAKDIR ALLAH, apa yang dikehendaki Allah dilakukanNya, kerana sesungguhnya perkataan KALAU membuka pintu perbuatan syaitan

Riwayat Muslim


for the words above, ia tak memberi green light utk kita berbuat maksiat, dan selepas itu, kita menyesal, its for us who has slipped unintentionally , battling with our inner desire but we failed and instead follow the whisper of syaitan. T__T

i'm a sinner that i'm not proud of showing any of it, i'm definitely a nobody to say such word, but I believe in Allah, He is the most Merciful and He is the most forgiving

may Allah forgive us, may Allah bless us, dont lose hope on Him.

cantik? hmm

have you watched this video?

touched. 

hmm

terasa panahan di dada.

zappp!

this video is definitely a-must-watch-vids

Big Valuable lessons i've learned

*dont try to find the self-beauty in the eyes of  other people. Beauty and perfection of physical appearance is NOT IMPORTANT in the sight of Allah. He counts every good deeds we do in life not how many people has complimented how beautiful you are

*internal beauty is what makes you  beautiful even thou you are unfortunate with the looks and body, like Julaybib r.a

*NEVER MAKE YOUR FRIENDS FEEL DOWN ABOUT THEIR PHYSICAL APPEARANCE. If you do, you are not blaming him for that, but the LORD, ALLAH, THE CREATOR. He created us beautifully and we have no right to judge His creation. 

*Rasulullah saw is the BEST COMPANION, see how affectionate and caring he was with his sahabat, especially those with low self-esteem. He would never let them feel down about themselves and always try to lift them up, recognizing the good deeds they've made and made them felt acknowledgeable in the sight of Prophet Muhammad saw. but FOOLS LIKE US, towards unfortunate looking people, we LOL-ing (laugh out loud) and make jokes at them in the group, forgetting the fact that Allah is the Creator. So basically, we're not  messing around with these people, but with Allah, the One who created them 

--- Personally, i am deeply sorry, to all if i ever make anyone of you felt this way before--

WHAT WE FIND NOT BEAUTIFUL MAY BE FAR BEAUTIFUL IN THE SIGHT OF ALLAH

So, what is true beauty?

is it the dead straight or gordilocks curly hair?
chalky eyes?
scrutinized eyeliner?
flawless and fair looking?
glittering, layered and colourful eye shadow?
designer and expensive wear?
vogue and in style shoes, bags and accessories?
hot and curvy bodies like Victoria Secret models?

huahua i'm so not good in describing cosmetic and fashion world,
pardon my limited vocabs :P


yeah i know, being a girl teenager, how hard it was to survive. And if you type 'TEENAGE GIRL'S SURVIVAL GUIDE in the google search, they've higlighted on make over, beauty reviews, how to get in style with fashion, as to inspire and boost up these teenage girls confidence level. We are bombarded with the fact that beauty of outer looks is more important than nurturing good inner values.

sigh
so, its somehow true like some sayings, beauty is pain, excruciating and expensive.
hm
i was up to that point too, struggling hard walking through my teenage life, so i felt how painful it was,
been there, done that!

but, as i grew up, being in KMB, and here in Czech Republic, i learned how to become a Muslimah, through my friends, usrah, youtube videos shared on facebook and so on. Alhamdulillah, i finally came to realize, being a Muslimah, i feel so lucky that Allah instruct us to wear Hijab, cover our body and being modest in everything we wear, we do throughout our daily life. He knows whats best for us.

Our bodies are a trust from Allah, no one gets to degrade a Muslimah's face or body, it is wrapped carefully, it is sacred, beautifully covered behind the veil. This Hijab is to protect us. For example, living here in Czech Republic, people stare at me, since i'm wearing Hijab on my head and fully covered my body. I am very used with the staring, but they don't stare with LUST and i feel safe! THIS HIJAB IS MY SHIELD. So, how can we ever thank Him enough for this?

Being a woman, i know, how we always wanted to feel beautiful at ALL TIMES! We are beautiful, internally and externally. PEREMPUAN TAK PERNAH TAK CANTIK okes, i've always had crushes with beautiful girls i've seen, even among my friends (hahha mohon kawan2 jangan perasan :P) We are truly blessed to have been created as a woman. And its a human nature, wanting to look gorgeous. But we have guidelines, and most important of all, beautifying our inner beauty rather the physical looks.

learn to behave well, learn to improve your inner soul
never quit in learning

definitely i'm not a righteous person,
i'm just saying as a self-reminder

I hope, may we'll be saved from betraying the trust He gave us of this bodies
and
may Allah unblind us from being tricked by outward appearance.

For all those friends and beautiful women who remind me of The MOST BEAUTIFUL,
may Allah grant continuum blessing of His throughout your life.

na schledanou!
FIGHTING!

Dark Blind

pergh. deep.

came across this ayat today. 

*choke*

Al-hajj, 22:46 

Oleh itu, bukankah ada baiknya mereka mengembara di muka bumi, dengan melihat kesan-kesan tersebut- mereka menjadi orang-orang yg ada hati dengannya mereka dapat memahami, atau ada telinga yg dengannya mereka dapat mendengar? (tetapi kalaulah mereka mengembara pun tidak juga berguna) kerana keadaan yang sebenarnya BUKANLAH MATA KEPALA YG BUTA, tetapi YG BUTA ITU IALAH MATA HATI YG ADA DI DALAM DADA

So have they not traveled through the earth and have hearts by which to reason and ears by which to fear? For indeed, IT IS NOT EYES THAT ARE BLINDED, but BLINDED ARE THE HEARTS WHICH ARE WITHIN THE BREASTS

deep. sgt deep

sindrom buta hati

truly said, there is deafness more insidious than the ears. 

Blindness and deafness of the heart and mind

born of thoughtlessness, the rote of following others. 

sigh

being hypnotized by duniawi. 

haha. am i included? 

T_T

living here in Czech Republic for 4 years and a half, i see this kind of heedlessness in the people around me. Seeing them walking about, driving their cars, eating, drinking, glamorous lifestyle, partying, engaging in all sorts of activities. They are like intellectual sleepwalkers ::: like being under hypnosis. Blunted perception. Too many signs around them, but they hardly sees. 

this hypnosis is contagious, spreading widely throughout people around you, influencing a person day and night. Being in a comfort zone and favors whatever opinion is currently fashionable. This blindness makes us perfectly free ; doing whatever we want, and think whatever that pleases us.

its not just them. I was blind too. Blind dark.

Engaged with the same routine everyday, over and over again; wake up in the morning, going to school, eat, drink, studying, internet surfing ,forgetting the main purpose of my creation.

Hypnotized by duniawi.

kalau kita tahu apa sebab kita diciptakan, mesti kita buka mata kita besar-besar kan?

i don't want to be blind.

Allahu, celikkan mataku. celikkan pendengaranku, celikkan mata hatiku 

:'(

Just got slapped on my face.

Love letter

touched. 

yesterday, kina told me that she was running out of motivation.

saya tak teror bagi kaunseling. 

saya tak teror ayat-ayat AlQuran to share with her, to calm her down

saya tak teror nak bagi kata-kata memberansangkan.

serious saya tak terer

so i shared them my favorite quote

'I asked Allah for strength and Allah gave me difficulties to make me strong, I asked Allah for wisdom and He gave me problems to solve, I asked Allah for courage and Allah gave me obstacles to overcome, I asked Allah for love and Allah gave me troubled people to help, I asked Allah for favours and He gave me opportunities.

This morning, Martin, my Czech ex-housemate sent me a private message in facebook 

touched again and again

i was deeply touched.

serious memang tersentuh

tak sangka.

serious never expecting this

GIVE GIVE GIVE!!

Fall in love with this hadith, Hadis 36. Immensely #deep

Daripada Abu Hurairah r.a, daripada Nabi SAW bersabda maksudnya: “Sesiapa yang melepaskan sesuatu kesusahan seorang mukmin dari kesusahan-kesusahan dunia Allah akan melepaskan darinya satu kesusahan dari kesusahan hari Akhirat dan sesiapa melapangkan seorang yang berada di dalam kesempitan Allah akan melapangkan untuknya di dunia dan di akhirat dan sesiapa yang menutup keburukan saudaranya maka Allah akan menutup keburukannya di dunia dan akhirat dan Allah pasti menolong hamba-Nya selagi mana hambanya menolong saudaranya. Dan sesiapa mengikuti satu jalan untuk mencari ilmu Allah akan memudahkan untuknya jalan ke syurga. Tidak berkumpul satu kaum di dalam rumah dari rumah-rumah Allah dan saling belajar dan mengajar antara satu sama lain melainkan turunlah ketenangan atas mereka, rahmat meliputi mereka, para malaikat mengerumuni mereka dan Allah akan menyebut (nama-nama) mereka di sisi-Nya. Dan sesiapa yang kurang amalannya maka nasab (keturunannya) tidak akan dapat menyempurnakannya.”


Ada banyak inti kaya dalam surah ni yang aku belajar. 
1. kita mudahkan orang lain, Allah akan mudahkan kita
2. kita tolong orang lain dlm kesempitan, Allah akan tolong kita bila kita dalam kesempitan
3. kita tutup aib org lain di dunia, Allah akan tutup aib kita dunia akhirat
4. usaha, sebab Allah ckp bila kita usaha cari ilmu tu, Allah akan mudahkan jalan ke syurga
5. its good utk pergi majlis2 ilmu agama, sbb Allah sebut2 nama kita kt arasy' 
6. Ibu ayah takkan dapat tolong tinggikan jumlah amalan kakcik yang sedikit ni.

Ash sharh, setiap kesusahan ada kemudahan

Ash Sharh

heart throbbing surah

this surah is revealed in Macca

94th surah in AlQuran

'So surely ease (comes) with every hardship

Verily, with (this) hardship (too) there is ease

So when you are free (educating ummah, the community) preaching Deen (religion) and fighting, and fulfilling your responsibility)

then strive hard (in remembrance and worship of your Lord)

And turn to your Lord earnestly

94:5-8

feel so close

Allah sometimes test the believers. He is testing on us with something that we can endure.

The more test a believer can endure, the higher his status will be in paradise.

p/s : ingat timah jangan putus asa please! 

SAYONARA JAHILIYAH

wikend ritu ada pergi satu program ni

Sayonara Jahiliyah.

sentap

sentap 

sentap.

dearest fatimah zaharah.

jadi seperti umar al-khattab r.a or khalid alwalid

dulu dorang gangstahhh, orang kuat Quraish, tentang Islam kemain.

tapi once masuk Islam terus shining bright and strive their best for lillahita'ala

hadis nabi muhammad s.aw

'Manusia seperti logam, terpilihnya mereke semasa jahiliyah, 

terpilih juga mereka semasa Islam, 

sekirannya mereka faham 

why logam again?

logam --> xmudah patah, xmudah bengkok, boleh dilentur, boleh digilap

manusia seperti logam, berubah mengikut cara dilentur, cara digilap. 

logam yang baik campak kemanapun, pasti tetap baik

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sayang kalian kerana Allah. tembamnya aku! haha

Allah doesnt need us as if we choose to be in the same jahiliyah. 

Allah does never need anything that he could need our worship

it is US who need worship

we are in need of Him!

sentap
cuba tengok video ni. nak share sket. 
aku download kat utube. 

download tak guna kalau kau sendiri tak amek pengajaran timah oi

aduh. susah. but not impossible kan.

Kalau dunia ni dah pilih utk hidup jahil, akhirat nanti camne?