do you want to be a prisoner of somebody else's thoughts?

it is human nature to want to be liked and accepted. However, this often leads to people worrying too much about what others are thinking about them. This kind of excessive worrying can have a negative effect on your life. It can be so debilitating that it interferes with your ability to feel at ease with yourself and around others. and this prevent us from living life to the fullest potential.

Why should you not care about what others think?

1. Its not their life.

People are entitled to think whatever they want, just as you are entitled to think what you want. What people think of you cannot change who are or what you are worth, unless you allow them to. This is your life to live. At the end of the day, you are the only person who needs to approve of your own choices

2.You know what's best for you.

Nobody will ever be as invested in your life as you. Only you know what is best for you, and that entails learning from your own choices. The only way you will ever truly learn is through making your own decisions, taking full responsibility for them and that way if you do fail, at least you can learn wholeheartedly, as opposed to blaming somebody else

3. What's right for someone else may be completely wrong for you.

indeed, it's important to recognize that someone's opinion is often based on what they would do. This alone is a problem What is best for somebody else, can be the worst thing for you. What one person considers garbage can be another person's treasure. We are all so unique. Allah made us unique in our own way. Learn to know yourself. Only you know what is right for you.

4. It will keep you from your dreams

If you are constantly worried about what other people think, you will never get to where you need to go in life. You are going to have to do things that don't always meet people's standards. There's time where you'll come into situations where you have to put out your pride, and your reputation on the line to get what you want. If you're constantly worried about what people are thinking, you'll never have the will to do what's right

5. You're the one stuck with the end result!

In life, you're the one stuck with the consequences of your decisions. Eg, if someone suggests you some stocks, but you just don't feel right about that choice. If the stock falls and you lose a lot of money, you are the one who will live the consequences, you're the one that will have to live with the fact that you didn't follow your inner call, When people give you their suggestions or orders, there is no risk for them. They don't have to live with your choice, but you do!

6. People's thoughts change on a regular basis

We are constantly changing. Some philosophers and theorists suggest that we are in a constant state of flux, so much that we cannot even say we have one, specific 'self' or fixed personality. People's thoughts, ideas, views change on a regular basis. People constantly changing. Which means even if somebody does think badly of you at the moment, there is a good chance they will think differently in the near future. So basically, people's thoughts don't really matter

7. Life is simply too short

You have one life to live, only one! so why would you spend it worrying about other people's opinions? Do whatever you want, be whoever you want. You're not going to see these people after you're dead. You possibly won't even see them in a year from now. Live you life without worrying about other people's thoughts and opinion, and you will live your life to the maximum

8. Reap what you sow

Worrying too much about what other people think of you can become a self-fulfilling prophecy. Frequently, people indulge their need to be liked so much so that it actually dictates to the way they behave. Come on dude! some people-pleasers or so submissive that many people are turned off. The behavior you use as an attempt to ensure you are liked may actually cause you to be disliked,

9.Others don't care as much as you think

People generally don't think outside themselves a great deal of time. it is a sad but simple truth, that the average person filters their world through their ego, meaning that they think about most things in terms of 'me' or 'my'. This means that unless who you are or what you have done directly affects another person or their life, they are unlikely to spend much time thinking about you at all

10. The hard truth, it's impossible to please everybody

dude, you can't please all of the people all the time. It is impossible to live up to everyone's expectations so there is no point in burning yourself out trying to do so. Just make sure that one of the people you please is yourself!

So, in a nutshell, the weight of other's thoughts can become a burden sometimes. this can inhibit you from living your life they way you've wanted, because your entire being (personality, thoughts,actions) are controlled by an idealized standard of what people want to see. When you become so obsessed with other people's opinion of you, you forget of your own. You can make a conscious effort to stop giving a damn to let yourself free! it's a skill that needs to be practiced, but once you truly understand how to let go, you will see the world as entirely different!

Once you give up catering to other people's opinion and thoughts, you'll find out who you truly are, and that the freedom will be like taking a breath for the first time.

You go girl!

Living at risk is jumping off the cliff and building your wings on the way down

Life is a series of calculated risks – nothing more. Everything that you decide to do has a margin of risk. No outcome is ever 100 percent certain and, therefore, any attempt at anything has a chance of complete failure. We risk everything, every day of our lives without knowing it. There is always a chance that walking outside will kill us.There’s a chance that we’ll never make it to our destination, a chance we won’t get to see our loved ones again, a chance that tomorrow will never come. 

Risk taking the road less traveled.

The road less traveled is a scary road to take. It hasn’t been worn in by previous footsteps, so getting lost is a cinch. The brush has never been trimmed or tended to, so you’re likely to get caught on a branch and stuck in places for a while.The roads less traveled haven’t yet been mapped out and, therefore, the only thing you really have to go on in hopes of reaching your destination is your intelligence, your logic, perseverance, and a bit of luck.However, the road less traveled has much richer plunders. You risk never getting there, but once you do, it’s well worth your trouble.

Risk getting turned down.

It doesn’t matter whether you are trying to get someone’s number or asking them to pass you a napkin – you’ll always meet that jerk who will refuse to even pay you any attention. Because we hate being rejected – our damn egos at it again – we often fail to even ask.More often than not, we get turned down not because of us, but because of the individual that is rejecting our request.If you don’t ask then you won’t be answered. If you don’t ask then you’re basically still getting answered no, but you yourself are moving any chance of receiving a yes

Risk failing.

Failing is both the worst and best thing that can happen to us. When you don’t fail, you succeed. When you do fail, you succeed at figuring out another way of not doing it – it just doesn’t feel quite as good.We too often allow our emotions to get in the way of logic. If you don’t risk failing, then you can’t succeed. Success requires risking failure – that is true 100 percent of the time.

Risk putting it all on the line.

If we do things right, there will be a time in our lives that we will have to decide whether or not we want to put it all on the line and roll the dice. The later you risk losing everything, the more difficult it will be to bounce back. The biggest rewards often require the largest risks. Just be smart about it and make sure you know exactly what you are risking and exactly what you would be getting as a reward

Risk missing out in order to achieve something greater.

We’re afraid that staying in and getting some rest will make us miss out on something huge – life changing. Think about this: You’ve been making sure that you haven’t missed out on anything for years, how many of those experiences actually made a positive change in your life?

Risk that person not saying “I love you too.”

No one wants to be the first one to say “I love you.” I get it – not hearing “I love you” back can suck. But imagine how great it will feel if that person does love you back. He or she is most likely worrying about the same thing waiting for you to make a move. And if that person doesn’t love you back, then at least you know where things really stand and can disillusion yourself.

Risk making a mistake.

Mistakes need to be made if you want to succeed in life – it’s how we learn. If you’re not making mistakes then you’re not trying enough things. In other words, you’re not living enough. Risk making those mistakes because they are the things that make our lives interesting enough to read about.

Risk losing friendships.

Friendships can be great, but they can also be very restrictive. Following our dreams usually involves quite a bit of solitude. Friendships make it very difficult to take the time that you need to get the work done that needs to get done. In my opinion, true friends should support you and your dreams no matter what.They should understand that you may have to distance yourself a bit more and then work together to keep the friendship alive – even if you don’t see each other half as much.

Risk not being good enough.

There’s always a chance that you won’t be good enough. But again, isn’t that something that you’d like to know? The fact is that you’re either good enough or not good enough. Often, when we think we are good enough, we actually aren’t.This is important information to have because it informs you how much more work you need to put in before you can succeed. But you will never know if you’re good enough if you don’t risk not being good enough.

Risk putting yourself out there and being judged.

We hate being judged regardless of the fact that we do it all the time and that we are being judged all the time. Everyone always judges – it’s what we humans do. Put yourself out there and be judged. Since you’re not selling yourself to everyone – most people won’t be a significant part of your life – most of their opinions don’t really matter anyway.

Risk admitting that you don’t know.

Not knowing is not something to be embarrassed about. There is a very fine line between knowing and not knowing. For example, one second I will know absolutely nothing about a topic and then two minutes later, after someone explains something to me, I instantly know something new.It’s crazy. And it only took a few minutes and not seconds. Knowledge is the easiest thing to accumulate, but only if you ask questions and risk admitting your lack of knowledge.

Risk opening up and being vulnerable

When it comes to relationships, opening up and revealing your full, true self is necessary. It’s a requirement of love I’m afraid. If you don’t open yourself up and make yourself vulnerable then your partner will never see the real you and therefore will never be able to love you for the real you.You have to risk it all to have it all. You have to risk giving yourself fully to the person whom you love if you want to experience the deepest level of love possible.

 Life is all about risks – you take some and you avoid others.The life you live depends on the choices you make, the risks you take, and how lucky or unlucky you’ve been. Depending on how lucky you feel you’ll most certainly want to avoid certain risks – like walking across a highway with a blindfold.

Reasons, i wish i can always see the 'hikmah' behind things

Sometimes people come into your life and you know right away that they were meant to be there, to serve some sort of purpose, teach you a lesson or to help you figure out who you are or who you want to become. 

i sometimes do get annoyed by the saying, everything happens for a reason'. For once i find it to be rather sappy thou i'm not a particularly sappy person. More importantly, i've never thought the sentiment is true. i thought some things  just happen. There's no rhyme or reason to them. They just happen. The more i think about it, the more i think about it, the more i've become to realize i was wrong. Everything does happen for a reason.

the famous Quran verse, Allah wants us to wonder; 

'but it may happen that you hate a thing which is good for you, and it may happen that you love a thing which is bad for you. Allah knows, you know not'   2:216

And sometimes things happen that may seem horrible, painful, and unfair at first. but in reflection, we find out that without overcoming those obstacles you've never realized your potential, strength, willpower and heart. 

haha, everything happens for a reason. Nothing happens by chance or by means of luck. Illness, injury, love, lost moments of true greatness, and sheer stupidity all occur to test the limits of our soul. with these small test, whatever they may be, life would be like a smoothly paved, straight flat road to nowhere. it will be safe and comfortable, but dull and utterly pointless. hmmm

during these 5 years of medical school, i've been through a lot of failures, haha tak pass exam , heart broken etc2. These people i've met have affected me so much in my life. The success and downfall experienced, help to create of who i am and who i've become now. Even the bad experiences which probably the most poignant and important one; i've learned so much more from it. If someone breaks + hurts + betrays you, Forgive! for them they have helped you learn about trust and the importance of being cautious to when you open your heart. if someone loves you, love them back unconditionally, not only because they love you but because in a way, they are teaching you to love, and how to open your heart and eyes to things. yes, every day count!'

haha amazing as it sounds, it is true. it's taken me a long time to see hikmah behind things. Alhamdulillah, this has become a very strong principle in me, i see that even the worst disaster- there are wonderful gifts, hidden opportunities or life enhancing lessons. Alhamdulillah. we couldn't have gotten them any other way. Allah is the best planner, He plans perfectly, according to how we can weigh them. 

knowing that there's a reason for what happens also save you from being filled with blame. Yup, blame is a human attempt to make sense of some catastrophe, though we hate the way it feels. and yet when something bad happens to us, its almost a reflex to thing,, we blame ourselves too much as well. we blame other people and then we end up with the sense that the world is full of bad people. We blame ourselves and then instead of feeling healthy, strong and whole we see ourselves as sick, weak, and broken. then we blame life itself. What could be more demoralizing that feeling condemned to having bad things always happen to us and not being able to do anything about it. 

haha, you know, blame is like a boomerang that loops around and bonks us on the noggin. instead, try this, if you see someone struggling with sadness, anxiety and negativity, listen, listen to that person's story. You'll soon see he's living in a world where all he sees are things to blame because he lives without positive meanings for what's happened to him. The only cure is to restore the sense that there is a good reasons for everything that happens

aaah, alhamdulillah, now i am just going to appreciate every moment and take from those moments everything that i possibly can, coz i may never be able to experience it again. Talk to people that you have never talked to before, and listen. I've learned that listen is one of the survival kit of life. yes, break free fatimah zaharah, let myself fall in love, do something new, set sights high! woot2!! most importantly, if you love someone, tell them. especially family, kawan2, for you never know what tomorrow may have in store. i'm sorry dear friends, thats why i'm extra gedix. bare with me k! and finally enjoy looking forward to learning a new lesson each day and enjoying the journey!

Sometimes 'bad' things happen to 'good people, bak kata Yasmin mogahed, it is us who define what is good and bad. Good Muslims sees everything good. coz sometimes 'bad' things are truly outward moments of difficulty in comparison to the good Allah has in store and is preparing for that person to experience, when the time and moment are right.

'When Allah tests you, it is never to destroy you. Whenever He removes something from your possessionm it is only to empty your hands for an even better gift'

-Ibn al Qayyim

Everything happens for a reason and Allah has bigger plan for us that we might not know at the moment =)

That effffff word

بِسْمِ اللّهِ الرَّحْمَنِ الرَّحِيْمِ

'Don't fear failure so much  that you refuse to try new things.  The saddest summary of life contains 3 descriptions ; could have, might have and should have'    -Anonymous

that efffff word; Fear.

true that. Too often, we allow fear, worry, doubt to dominate and define our lives. We allow them to steal our joy, our sleep and our precious dream. so, I made up my mind, very young (25 is still considered young ok), that I would push forward no matter what.

If you want to know happiness and realize your dreams, you have to be willing to take a leap of faith, despite being afraid.

I am a girl with big dreams. I have so many things that I wish to do, I wish to achieve, I wish of so many things, my brain keep on manufacturing ideas, but deep down I fear of myself whether I could get to that point and achieve what I want. Too often we hold back and play it safe, in order to avoid becoming successful, feeling embarrassed, looking silly, being hurt and facing rejection or possible failure. and I have all that fear inside me. 

We cling to fear from our childhood, traumatic experiences and the negative media, eg movies and even the laughter of our own friends of how absurd and ridiculous our dreams or wishes. 

Now, I am struggling to acknowledge, face, dissolve and conquering my own fear! 

Strategies to GET THERE!

1.Be positive. it's magic!

Make it dominant in your mind. You can't live a positive life with a negative mind. Positive thinking is not about expecting the best to happen, but accepting that whatever happens is the best for that moment. so keep calm and stay positive!

2. Encouragement from my family and friends. 

Family can see the strength inside us when we forget that we have it. At my request, they don’t hesitate to remind me of all trials and triumphs we have come through. They’re generous with praise and encouragement.  and I have tons of supportive friends that I treasure. I know, even though some of them are distance away, whispering du'a and prayers is one way of how we get connected. 

 

3. Don't give time, attention, or energy to fear. 

Fear, its poisonous mind, which was once an appropriate reaction to real and present danger, is now the reaction to any imagined negative outcome. Fear is mostly a product of OUR OWN IMAGINATIONS, almost always without any true basis in reality. We fear failure. We fear success. We fear the future. We fear the past. We fear possible scenarios with only a shred of evidence to lead us there. The more we think about what we fear, the more we feed the fear. Then fear begins to control us, limit us, and ultimately overtake us. Stop it! Be fearless!

4. Get comfortable with fear

Invite fear into life. When fearing something, move toward it.  Feel it, and breathe through it. Do the things that frighten you. Action builds courage. keep reminding myself “This fear will pass.” Your world expands as your courage expands.

5. Live vicariously through the victories of other? No, from vicarious to VICTORIOUS LIVING! =) 

So, by definition , vicarious means, 'indirect, surrogate, substitute' , so whooo wants to live a 'substitute' life? You wanna live your own life right? 

Sometimes when i went through some fb photo comments, where people commenting ,'ohh i'm sitting here and live vicariously, through other people's adventure. I'm not saying that it's not good to say that;  IT IS GOOD IF you are inspired and get off the couch, and just go after what you want, or achieve towards what you wish to experience. But if you just sitting in front of your lappy without doing nothing, that is not it!

i love inspiration. I believe it is important to the human spirit, like vitamins and supplements, which are essential to the human body. But unlike food, we must be able to internally generate at least portion of our recommended daily allowance of inspiration. Depend too much on external factors and we soon become dependent and addicted to outside sources as a shadow substitute. 

“I’ve become inspired to have more adventure in my life, to get off the couch and go after what I want and live my life with gusto!”

I think i realized something in my life, something about the human experience. I think, specifically, we have a tendency to live through other people's stories rather that take the risk of having our own adventure. it implies to many expect. even in our journey of worshiping Allah.

It dawned on me that perhaps there are multiple reasons why people live vicariously. That perhaps there are good and bad reasons to do this. I have some reasons that implies in my life, my good reasons to enjoy the vicarious experience

...for example, 

- to be happy for someone else, - i have so many supportive friends who are always happy when i did some crazy stuff. and i am beyond happy if they do the same as well. Sharing the feelings of being on top of the world is just mesmerizing and wonderful. i am grateful to have these precious friends.

-you're not ready to do it coz it's too extreme, and there's no way i'm going to ever try that :: yeahh i have these kinda feeling when i watch this video ; 

Wingsuit flying ; giler tahap moksya

I completely admire the courage and their stupidity, (LOL) that drives these people to those extremes, but i know that i'm not going to do it anytime soon. I can enjoy a rush of adrenaline living the experience second hand, but not do it myself :P

-i physically can't do it. At this point in my life, i'm never going to be an Olympic gymnast or World Champion Badminton hahaha. Face the fact. i enjoy watching Lin Dan and Chong Wei on world stage, and Wong Mew Choo which is very known with her exceptional stamina, but face it Fatimah Zaharah, i am nowhere to that point. in my younger years, i didn't make the choice to dedicate my life to becoming an Olympian and the time has past for that but there's nothing wrong living it directly through the up and coming stars, right? 

All those a great reasons to enjoy vicarious living, as long as you don't spend your whole life living vicariously and never step out to you own adventurous life. However, if you live your life through someone else's eyes for some of the reasons below, you may want to stop and think about where you're going in your own life

FEAR?  hmm, back to the above points...

PROCRASTINATION? which probably comes back to fear in some sense. we used to say, hmm 'someday, or 'when i finish my uni' or 'when the kids are grown' or 'when i lose 2kg or 10 lbs' zzz, well , until you decide to decide, you'll never make a step closer and you'll forever be watching the video instead of making it

Take a look at the reasons why you live vicariously through others and be sure that you are doing it for the right reasons, as a motivator in your own life, not as an excuse. then, live victoriously! =) 

6. Reflect. Give sometime to reflect

We often see the wrong of others and never have a single moment to think what we've done wrong. So many people never take the time examine themselves to see where they are making these life mistakes. So many mistakes done, but its not the end of the world. Allah knows our own struggle and acknowledge them, right? 

Examine your fears under a magnifying glass. Break them down and study all of the parts. How much truth is there really in each fearful thing? What are the odds that the fearful thing will come to pass? Leave no fear un-probed, until you become bored with fear. Become practiced at seeing fear as a weak and capricious companion, only useful when you are dealing with reality.

Life experience has taught us to put our head in the sand when we don’t like what we see. If things look unpleasant, if people let us down, if we fail to meet expectations — we spend precious energy finding ways to obfuscate, hide, deny, and pretend. The painful truth seems too scary to face, so we wear ourselves down trying to avoid it.

Adventure is optional. although Allah has great plans for our life, He won't make us take a leap of faith to go on an adventure with him. and remind yourself, even though you want to be fearless, be FEARFUL to ALLAH, Fear only towards HIM. 

Bismillah, may Allah make ease of our journey. 

cantik? hmm

have you watched this video?

touched. 

hmm

terasa panahan di dada.

zappp!

this video is definitely a-must-watch-vids

Big Valuable lessons i've learned

*dont try to find the self-beauty in the eyes of  other people. Beauty and perfection of physical appearance is NOT IMPORTANT in the sight of Allah. He counts every good deeds we do in life not how many people has complimented how beautiful you are

*internal beauty is what makes you  beautiful even thou you are unfortunate with the looks and body, like Julaybib r.a

*NEVER MAKE YOUR FRIENDS FEEL DOWN ABOUT THEIR PHYSICAL APPEARANCE. If you do, you are not blaming him for that, but the LORD, ALLAH, THE CREATOR. He created us beautifully and we have no right to judge His creation. 

*Rasulullah saw is the BEST COMPANION, see how affectionate and caring he was with his sahabat, especially those with low self-esteem. He would never let them feel down about themselves and always try to lift them up, recognizing the good deeds they've made and made them felt acknowledgeable in the sight of Prophet Muhammad saw. but FOOLS LIKE US, towards unfortunate looking people, we LOL-ing (laugh out loud) and make jokes at them in the group, forgetting the fact that Allah is the Creator. So basically, we're not  messing around with these people, but with Allah, the One who created them 

--- Personally, i am deeply sorry, to all if i ever make anyone of you felt this way before--

WHAT WE FIND NOT BEAUTIFUL MAY BE FAR BEAUTIFUL IN THE SIGHT OF ALLAH

So, what is true beauty?

is it the dead straight or gordilocks curly hair?
chalky eyes?
scrutinized eyeliner?
flawless and fair looking?
glittering, layered and colourful eye shadow?
designer and expensive wear?
vogue and in style shoes, bags and accessories?
hot and curvy bodies like Victoria Secret models?

huahua i'm so not good in describing cosmetic and fashion world,
pardon my limited vocabs :P


yeah i know, being a girl teenager, how hard it was to survive. And if you type 'TEENAGE GIRL'S SURVIVAL GUIDE in the google search, they've higlighted on make over, beauty reviews, how to get in style with fashion, as to inspire and boost up these teenage girls confidence level. We are bombarded with the fact that beauty of outer looks is more important than nurturing good inner values.

sigh
so, its somehow true like some sayings, beauty is pain, excruciating and expensive.
hm
i was up to that point too, struggling hard walking through my teenage life, so i felt how painful it was,
been there, done that!

but, as i grew up, being in KMB, and here in Czech Republic, i learned how to become a Muslimah, through my friends, usrah, youtube videos shared on facebook and so on. Alhamdulillah, i finally came to realize, being a Muslimah, i feel so lucky that Allah instruct us to wear Hijab, cover our body and being modest in everything we wear, we do throughout our daily life. He knows whats best for us.

Our bodies are a trust from Allah, no one gets to degrade a Muslimah's face or body, it is wrapped carefully, it is sacred, beautifully covered behind the veil. This Hijab is to protect us. For example, living here in Czech Republic, people stare at me, since i'm wearing Hijab on my head and fully covered my body. I am very used with the staring, but they don't stare with LUST and i feel safe! THIS HIJAB IS MY SHIELD. So, how can we ever thank Him enough for this?

Being a woman, i know, how we always wanted to feel beautiful at ALL TIMES! We are beautiful, internally and externally. PEREMPUAN TAK PERNAH TAK CANTIK okes, i've always had crushes with beautiful girls i've seen, even among my friends (hahha mohon kawan2 jangan perasan :P) We are truly blessed to have been created as a woman. And its a human nature, wanting to look gorgeous. But we have guidelines, and most important of all, beautifying our inner beauty rather the physical looks.

learn to behave well, learn to improve your inner soul
never quit in learning

definitely i'm not a righteous person,
i'm just saying as a self-reminder

I hope, may we'll be saved from betraying the trust He gave us of this bodies
and
may Allah unblind us from being tricked by outward appearance.

For all those friends and beautiful women who remind me of The MOST BEAUTIFUL,
may Allah grant continuum blessing of His throughout your life.

na schledanou!
FIGHTING!

for my future children

TAK SABAR NAK ADA BABY! lols

okes, abaikan benda atas yg mengarut tu. This poster posted in FB  i found this morning caught my attention . Haha i was quite interested with the content  of it. Overall i would say, raising a child is never an easy thing. The good education means the physical, mental and moral preparation of the child so he can become a good individual in the good society.

Allah (swt) has entrusted parents with their children. Parents bear the responsibility to raise their children in the Islamic way. If they do that they will be blessed in this life and in the Hereafter, and if they don't, they will get bad result during their life and in the Hereafter *gulpppppp*

Rasulullah saw resemble the best example of a loving father, a good leader of a family, an obedient child and so much more. As a future mother, I am glad that i'm in medical school, so i am fully expose upon this matter. During Histology class, i learned about the embryology and early development of human being in the mother's womb. However, Allah speaks about it in Holy Quran, about the stages of man's embryonic development.  Next year, i'm going to have Pediatrics in 5th year, so, i'll be learning in depth about children *ngee*

Honestly, when it comes to theory, i might have some knowledge about children's development and psychology, but practically on the other hand, i'm so ZERO!!! haha. I have a little brother,  who was born when I was 11. So, I used to be beside ibu, helping her out, taking care of my little brother eg cleaning up his diapers, feed him, bathing him. *baik kan kakak kau ni Nudin* So,boleh la nak kata yang i have a  very basic skills of baby care. 

In a nutshell, from what i can extract from above, the upbringing of a children begins in the early childhood, and continue throughout the teenage years. 

A mum's job is a 24/7 job okes!!!! Bare that in mind timahh..

So, secara konklusinya....

Physically...

-feed the children with halal and healthy food,  

-encourage the practice of sports eg swimming, archery, horse-riding, wrestling <-- basically these are the sports according to sunnah Rasulullah saw

mentally and morally..

-approach our children with love and tenderness, as the quotes saying, 'mother's touch soothe the soul' , make more physical contact, especially during the newborn period. The health of a newborn baby is HIGHLY DEPENDENT ON RECEIVING THE TOUCH OF THEIR MOTHER. patutlah baby kurang menangis bila ada orang sekeliling especially bila ada ibunya, they cry less and helps them sleep better

-teach the religious principle at early age. From the age of 5, teach the children on how to pray, encourage them to fast, but at the same time , explain why do they have to do it. Explain and make them understand that Solat prayer and fasting in Ramadhan month are a way of showing our love to Allah. Let them know more about Allah through story-telling about sahabat, angels, Prophet's stories and so on.

-be a good listener. Act as a 'friend' to our children rather than continue in the role of a teacher, as suggested by Prophet Muhammad saw

-teach them how to read at early phase; baby starts to speak generally at the age of 2, so da boleh ajar-ajar alif, ba, ta daa. Let them imitate your speech and repeat over and over again. At the age of 5, teach them to read Muqaddam and Quran. Children is the fastest learner of all in the whole wide world. So, encourage them to memorize simple surah and continue to surah2 juzu' amma during this age is the best timing. So true thou, i've been trying to memorize simple surah in Juzu' amma, and it took ages! *banyak dosa dengdengdengg*

-expose children to many kinds of interest, which enable their mental growth ; for example touring and travelling, language, music . Specifically as for boys, gardening, mechanic things, computer ; and as for girls, cooking, home-cleaning.

-let them take in charge of some task, to develop sense of responsibilities. At the same time, never let them doing it alone, supervise and guide them from time to time.

-teach children to select the good company and avoid the bad ones, because children are alwayssssss influenced by their friend.

-and one last thing, encourage and expose the children to sympathize with Muslim problems. Tell them about what happen in Palestine for example, and what can we do to contribute to the solutions eg making du'a and encourage them to donate some money to hungry Muslim children. Let them feel the sense of belonging to the Muslim nation. They will feel the brotherhood between Muslims, care more for Muslims in any land, and feel that they are part of the Muslim body, to feel sad for Muslim's sadness, to feel happy when Muslim are joyous and to strive their best to achieve the Muslim nation's goals.

banyak lagi, i know. takda idea.

now i can imagine how ibu and ayah raised me up since i was a little baby. I'm so glad to have the best parents in the whole wide universe. So, dari sekarang lagi i need to learn more and more, continuously making du'a, change my bad attitude and behavior. Nak jadi ibu yang baik, setting up a good practical example, because children like to imitate their parents in their sayings and deeds. 

Antara doa-doa parenting yg boleh kita amalkan:

Doa nabi zakaria 3:38 

At that, Zechariah called upon his Lord, saying, ' My Lord, grant me from Yourself a good offspring. Indeed, You are the Hearer of supplication

Doa dapat zuriat penyejuk mata memandang 25:74

And those who say, 'Our Lord, grant us from among our wives and offspring comfort to our eyes and make us an example for the righteous

and so much more, nanti timah buka doa dapat anak soleh niiii timahh huahuahua

p/s : words to ponder for the day 

How could Muhammad saw have possibly known all this 1400 years ago when scientist have only recently discovered this using advanced equipment and powerful microscopes which did not exist at the time? #deep

ok, i have to rush to fac now. PHARMACO mode is ON!!

cau!